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I really didn’t want to (and am way too embarrassed) to post a before pic. If you want to see, go to my FB and look at the “Vivi Baptism Album”. She was around two months at the time, and I still had about 40 lbs to lose!
So the “baby weight” starts with the first part. Gaining the weight. I gained sixty lbs when I was pregnant with V! How?? By eating for two, eating two giant slices of commissary carrot cake a day, and basically eating guilt free for the first time in my life ever. I have a health and fitness background and knew all of the “right things to do” (but didn’t do them, obviously). I just ate, partially because I was making a human and was just plain hungry, and partly because after the years and years of ballet, I was eating guilt free for the first time EVER. I also wasn’t teaching anymore and wasn’t too active during the dreary wintertime in Germany. I remember at about pound 47 my doctor telling me to “take it easy with the food”, that I would be really mad at myself afterward when it was time to get it off. I wanted to slap her across her face at the time, but this proved to be true. My first part of the advice is to try not to eat for two. Yes, listen to your body, but the extra 300 calories a day isn’t two giant pieces of carrot cake, a platter of homemade mac-n-cheese, or a whole cast iron of queso and tortilla chips!! When it is time for me to have the next baby I am going to try my best not to gain as much weight, mainly because it was a bitch to get it off!! I always compare it to my short lived pixie hair cut I had about five years ago. Yes it was fine for a few days but then it was a bitch to grow out, going through embarrassing Justin Beiber phases along the way!! The same with the baby weight, it was sure fun to eat to my hearts content while I was pregnant, but it was a lot of hard work initially to get those pounds off!!
Recently I have had a lot of friends seeking advice on how to get the weight off.
The first thing is:
1. TIME. Vivi is over two years old and my body is finally at a place with where I’m happy with it. Do not get discouraged when it takes longer than expected for the pounds to come off. They will once you decide that you want to commit to do it. I had very unrealistic expectations. I thought I would be able to lose all of the weight in a couple of months. Not the case. It took nine months to put the weight on, so give yourself time after you have the baby. Not only that, when you have a newborn the last thing you want to do is workout or hop on a treadmill when you have a couple of moments peace. I did not actively start trying to lose the weight until Vivi was about 8 months old. And looking back now, I really wish I would have just enjoyed Vivi more as an infant and not been so wrapped up and worried about losing the weight. Some of it does come off with nursing, but I would say I still had a good twenty pounds to go when Vivi was eight months and finished nursing. Your body changes when you have a baby. There is extra flesh in places there was never before which leads me to the next tip…
2. SHAPEWEAR. Way before Kim Kardashian started blowing up her Instagram with pics in her waist shaper, I was using the bad boy called the SQUEEM. When you first put it on you will be like “what the hell?” Flesh will be oozing out of the top and bottom. Buy some high waisted shape wear panties to tuck in underneath the SQUEEM. Wear this thing as much as you can. Sleep in it if you can. I’m not going to lie to you and tell you that it is comfortable because it is not. Start off with a belly bandit right after you have the baby and once that thing is too big head to the SQUEEM. It will really help you get your “shape” back as the pounds start coming off.
3. HIIT. High Intensity Interval Training. For the first time ever I was at a place in my life where I had to get my body into a fat burning mode. HIIT was key. Also any class at the gym that offers “power” type training. The Insanity workouts are good. Don’t worry, you will probably pee yourself when you first get back into the gym. It is ok, you are not alone. I would pee myself almost every time, then that would be the end of my work out and I would drive my sad, pathetic ass home and tell Chris I peed myself yet again. Those muscles come back too don’t worry.
Example workout you can do (I did this workout consistently for two months, along with Insanity classes at Gold’s Gym a couple of times a week, with a short Tone It Up arm or full body workout every now and then) : Alternate walking one minute and jogging one minute on an incline for eight minutes. Then get off treadmill and do thirty lunges (switch lunges jumping as you switch legs to take it up a notch if you want) followed by a one minute plank. Repeat this five times through (treadmill, lunges, plank). If you can get in light weight training three times a week on top of it that would be even better (try any Tone It Up workout, many are free on YouTube or at www.toneitup.com). Tone It Up is a great resource I use a lot.
SECRET TIP. If you want to take the workouts up a notch I will tell you the extra thing I did. And you may all judge the hell out of the psychopath ballerina that I try to deny who exists but still comes out … I wore a neoprene belt and shorts (over the shape wear) while I worked out. Then I would just wear some sad baggy ass sweatpants over and go to Gold’s where I could work out in the “woman’s only room”, as if any man would have looked my way anyway lol. Everyone has their own opinions about wearing stuff to make you sweat and shapewear. All I’m doing is sharing what I did…
I only had to really focus on getting to the gym consistently for a couple of months to drop the majority of the 20 lbs I had left (this was when V was about 9 months). The rest of the weight fell off this past year by getting back into teaching ballet six days a week, chasing a toddler and leading an active lifestyle. I will be completely honest and tell you that since we have moved to Hawaii I do not work out consistently if at all. If I have the urge I do, but between teaching and chasing Vivi I just don’t have all that much time or energy. But we ride the bikes or walk to the beach and take family hikes on a regular basis. We lead an active lifestyle. If I need to clear the space in my head, I will practice yoga at home. Exercising at home has gotten more fun now that Vivi is older because she mimics what Mommy does. So it’s entertaining. But I did bust my ass in the initial “lose the baby weight” push when V was around eight or nine months old.
4. DIET. I cut the sugar, gluten and dairy for a while. I started eating healthy again way before the initial gym push, so it helped me drop some weight gradually. Chris actually told me that he could never eat quinoa, salmon and roasted vegetables ever again because we ate it so much. These days if I want pizza or a Buzz’s Jack Daniels burger I will have it, but I eat clean the majority of the time. Obviously I didn’t while I was pregnant lol. Again listen to your body if you are breast feeding. Do not be a psychopath. Part of the reason I had to wait to start dieting and exercising was because I was nursing and I would notice a difference in my milk supply when I would try to get back. If you want to take the diet to the next level, lower the alcohol intake. I do notice a huge difference when I cut back on the vino. But at the same time you gotta live people!!! If that is your treat at the end of a long day there is nothing wrong with that. Extremes never stick….
5. SUPPORT. Find a buddy. Tell the hubby your goals. I’m sure he would gladly watch the little one for an hour for you to start feeling better.
6. SET REALISTIC GOALS. If you gained 60 lbs it is not going to come off in two months like I thought it would!!! Try two years!!! Do not get on Insta and look up #6weekspostpartum and find some freak of nature that has her six pack back after six weeks. It will just send you on a downward spiral!!! Your age and activity level pre baby will be huge factors in how long it takes to come off.
A few months is not a long time in the grand scheme of things. Enjoy your baby and remember the miracle that the whole process was and the miracle that is a woman’s body!! I hoped some of these tips help. Again, I am no doctor. These are just a few of the things I did that helped me. Your baby and nursing (if you chose to do that) are the most important things!! If you have any more questions, or want any more workouts please let me know!!